Sunday, October 15, 2017
Hidden identity (gay)
Even though everyday society is more accepting of LGBT people or atleast pretend to be, there are a lot of people that still feel they have to hide who and what they are. Even though people’s say they are accepting Or don’t care but really mean long as it doesn’t affect them. I have a male friend that came out and a lot of his male friends became distant. It was as if they were afraid gay was contagious. Sometimes I wonder if it’s that they have some doubts about there sexuality that there afraid others might too? The same guy that came out was the same guy a few months ago was acting homophobic.
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That's really interesting about your gay friend's homophobia. I wonder about homophobia in general,esp. ridiculous "defense of marriage" laws. If heterosexuals are secure in their sexuality then what do they need to defend their relationships from?
ReplyDeleteI haven't had that experience since the people I know are pretty much embraced by their families and friends, but I think that aspect of becoming distant with a person is quite normal. Not saying that this isn't the case with your friend. But I think that happens between heterosexual friends all the time. Most of us have been in the situation - or at least seen a situation - where a friend starts to develop feelings. And usually one of two things happen: 1. They start dating 2. The one that is liked starts to distancing him/herself from being close to the person so as to avoid giving any wrong signals. (I know there's a third one where you make the mistake of being intimate but then it's just weird between you two but in that case you pretty much just stop talking)
ReplyDeleteI have seen the distancing after someone comes out happen so many times. I just believe that people distance themselves because they believe that others might see them as gay as well. In this society whether we are now more accepting to the LBGTQ community, machismo-like attitudes roam in the background. Growing up in a Hispanic house hold, my parents, specifically my mother's side of the family would believe in the "gay gene" theory. After countless arguments they would be convinced its something genetically different. This would be hard on my cousin. She is in the closet and all the millennial cousins know of it. She came out to my aunt and she brush it off saying it was just a phase. I often wonder how horrible that must feel. When you know what you orientation is yet you are treated like its something wrong and it must be changed.
ReplyDeleteThanks, for sharing, Isaac. That's terrible about your cousin. I'm glad she's got supportive cousins who protect her.
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